In my opinion all maternity should be this easy to make and wear. Pregnancy has a tendency to make even the most stylish of mamas feel a little sloppy. I think women of the past, who did spend more of their adult life pregnant than most today do, had a lot more sense when it came to maternity clothing.
|Little birdies up close and personal like.|
When I think back on my grandmothers, I know that for at least one of them who had six children, a really big chunk of her adult life was spent either pregnant or nursing and she liked it that way. I come from a family with four kids and I loved the experience of growing up with my brothers and we are all still very close (three out of four of us even live on the same street). Family is an important part of your life, so don't be too hasty to eschew the idea of motherhood.
|Obligatory motherly bump rubbing shot.|
I don't think it makes me less of a woman or makes me stupid or a slave to be an old fashioned stay at home mom. Sure, your body will change through motherhood, but that's not always a bad thing. I know that for a lot of women the idea is archaic and repressive, but I think it's only that way if you let it be. I certainly don't live the life of the nineteenth century housewife (although most middle class wives then had at least one servant!?!), but I don't have to climb a corporate ladder, maintain a supermodel physique, and go get drunk with my girlfriends and wake up with strangers to be a woman either.
Whether you want to be a mother or not, you cannot deny that our world is a different one altogether from our grandmother's world and somehow the "liberated woman" has tossed aside most thoughts of motherhood and domesticity out the window as not good enough for this new breed of woman. May I suggest that true liberty and freedom isn't about eliminating a role, but being given the freedom to pursue it wholeheartedly without oppression, and that if you really want to shape the future for women there's no better way than to raise sons and daughters well.
The advertising world is full of women making other women feel bad about how they look, and the professional and academic world is full of women making other women feel bad about motherhood and domestic activities. I am not saying that all women should or have to be stay at home moms or live the way I choose to live, but what I am saying is we should as women reclaim the dignity that used to belong to the noble calling of motherhood. After all, good mothers produce a good next generation, and when we see such degradation, violence, laziness, and rudeness in young people, perhaps instead of simply blaming the anonymous culture as an excuse, we need to look at the role of parents. Viewing parenthood as something important and noble and as something each parent should give more seriousness to than their professional careers might just give us a better culture and future.
The main reason I am a stay at home mom isn't because I couldn't do anything else, but because I realized that my children will go on after me and they will be a part of shaping the future for myself, themselves, and their children. I know I am responsible in a large part for how they turn out and therefore what that future will look like. I decided that was more important to me and to others than any full time job could be. They are only small once and highly impressionable at the youngest ages, why would I want to entrust that time to just anyone? My kids won't remember me with love when I'm gone because I looked perfect or had huge career success, I hope rather than they will remember how much fun we had and how much I loved them.
How do you view motherhood?